5 Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

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You may think you have found the love of your life--your dream girl or dream man. You may even be in a seemingly healthy long-term relationship. But if you want your relationship to last, there are certain relationship styles you should attempt to avoid or at the very least keep to a minimum. Here are five common mistakes people make in relationships:
1. Being too dependent. Relationships need to be nurtured. They do not flourish if left on their own. Your relationship ought to be one of your top priorities in life. Of course, your relationship should not be your whole life. If you are reluctant to make plans that do not require both of you to participate until you are sure your partner has no plans, you give too much weight to your relationship. This is a common form of dependent behavior. Another is not being willing to allow the other person to do things on their own or failing to respect their need for alone time.
2. Being too independent. While having your whole life revolve around your relationship is unhealthy, so is not being able to make any compromises. If you always want things to be your way, you are restricting your partner's freedom in unreasonable ways. Compromising is key to relationship success. Certain core values should never be compromised. For example, if one of you want children of your own and the other does not, that may be a core value that is non-negotiable. But when things are less important, you need to accept that you cannot always have it your way. If you have different food preferences, for instance, then you need to claim defeat once in a while. The same goes for
decision making. While some decisions are yours to make, others should be made together with your partner, for instance, how you want to spend your summers or the holiday season.
3. Not being willing to make any sacrifices. Being in a relationship inevitably requires making sacrifices. You cannot live your single life while still being in a committed long-term relationship. Needless to say, if you and your significant other are exclusive, you cannot cheat on each other. But relationships require numerous other lesser sacrifices as well. It all comes down to making reasonable agreements with each other, which amount to satisfying some each other's wishes even when they go against your own. If you have agreed to inform each other when you are coming home late, you cannot just stay out without letting the other person know. If you used to go out partying every weekend, but the other person does not like partying at all, you need to find some middle way. It may not always feel great to have to give up part of your personal autonomy. Unfortunately, relationships cannot thrive if you unwilling to sacrifice some of your top desires and preferences.
4. Being unable to communicate about things that bother you. No two people are going to be exactly the same in their preferences, behaviors, and manners. There is bound to be aspects of the other person's preferences, behaviors or manners that will eventually bother you, especially after the honeymoon phase. Yet some couples are unable to communicate this to one another in a healthy way. They let the annoyance accumulate until it explodes, or they only let out their frustration in the heat of an argument. It is crucial to the success of a relationship, that you can convey negative things to your partner without them taking offense. Likewise, you should be willing to listen to the issues they have with you. When the negative aspects are reasonable things that can easily be fixed, you should both be willing to work on changing what the other person dislikes, or at least come to a reasonable agreement about what needs to be done. It is important that these kinds of conversations take place regularly and when both parties are calm and collected.
5. Explicitly or implicitly encouraging inequality. Although the norm in America today, at least among people from the younger generation, is that people are equal in relationships, it is easy to unwittingly carry on with old-fashioned inequality patterns. But equality is essential to a healthy long-term relationship. if you and your partner both have full time jobs (whether or not one of those jobs consists of taking care of your children during the day), you should contribute equally to homely tasks, including taking care of the children after work hours, cooking, cleaning, shopping, planning, and so on. Some couples realize that they can divide up the homely tasks in a way that makes sense to them, for instance, if one person is a great cook and the other person prefers doing the dishes, they may agree that one person cooks and that the other cleans up afterward. Equality in a relationship, however, goes beyond dividing up homely tasks. Decisions that pertain to, or seriously affect, the relationship need to be made together. And importantly, the same holds in the bedroom. Intimacy (including sex) is something that needs to be discussed. If you have different sexual needs, you need to find a middle way. Likewise, some couples fall into old-fashioned sexual relationship patterns, where the man initiates sex, the woman complies and only the man receives pleasure. Needless to say that this is not a good way to maintain a healthy relationship.

5 ways to avoid overspending

Money can be such a fluid thing. It goes much more easily than it comes, and is a difficult thing to control. Most times, expenses upon expenses will come and before you realise it a good chunk of your money is gone. It really can be stressful.
Jumia Travel shares 5 ways to help you avoid overspending and the stress that comes with it.
HAVE A BUDGET
This cannot be overemphasized. If you don’t want to overspend, you have to have a budget. You can’t continue to spend spontaneously and expect a miracle to happen.
You might feel like having a budget is too tedious or too technical but it really isn’t, or at least it doesn’t have to be. Creating a budget is as easy as the sample below:
IMPROVE YOUR BUDGET
Many times, even with a budget, we still end up overspending. A reason for this, most times, is that our budgets are not feasible and do not sufficiently cover our legitimate expenses. In this case, you should improve on your budget so it is more realistic, captures your legitimate needs and is easy to follow.
Legitimate expenses largely consist of your variable expenses. Things like entertainment, clothing, foodstuffs, and transportation are your variable expenses. Most times, when we initially create a budget we are too tight with our variable expenses because we are trying to rein them in and avoid overspending on them.
When you are too tight with your variable expenses you end setting yourself up for failure. This doesn’t mean you should be excessive in the amount you allocate for these variables (if you could afford to be excessive you won’t need a budget in the first place), but you should be honest enough with yourself to acknowledge how much you really need to sufficiently take care of them. You can base this on how much you’ve spent on them in the past and how much you can realistically afford to spend on them now.
USE CASH
The cashless society that ours is gradually turning into can be a good thing, but not if you’re trying to avoid overspending. Avoid taking your debit cards with you everywhere, especially when you are going out for entertainment. Stick to a cash-only budget system that forces you to stick to your budget. There is nothing that motivates you not to overspend more than when you know you don’t have any surplus money with you to overspend with.
DISCIPLINE
In the end it all boils down to discipline. You have to learn to discipline yourself not to overspend and, as much as you can, avoid situations that can make you overspend. Occasionally, you can depend on a friend or family member for support and accountability in helping you curb overspending.
GIVE YOURSELF A TREAT
From time to time, when you have successfully stuck to your budget and avoided overspending, do something nice for yourself with your money to commend yourself for the effort. It helps to encourage you and becomes a sort of reward you give yourself for the short-term financial goals you successfully achieved.
Again, it’s important to remember that you set these financial goals for yourself first, achieve them and then reward yourself by spending some, not all the money you have been able to save. Don’t be excessive with it.
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Severe Headaches or Migraines.

Severe Headaches or Migraines. A Warning Sign.
Migraines or headaches are one of the most common disorders of the nervous system, according to the World Health Organisation (WHO).
We are going to note the following:
1.- Tension Headache.
It is the most frequent headache commonly suffered by women at any age, it is described as a ‘crushing headache’, that starts as a light pain which can progress to moderate pain, and can appear in women before or after menstruation and during stressful periods. The majority of migraines fall under this category.
2.- Migraine or Headache.
It is a headache, usually located in one half of the head, and it is almost always coupled with eye watering. Light sensibility, vomiting, etc. can accompany the pain, which can last hours or even days and that worsens through exercise. It is most commonly found in young women and a family history is mostly present.
3.- Cluster Headache.
Most commonly suffered by young men, it also falls into the category of migraines; they do not last long and can be repeated throughout the day and the years. It is centred in one half of the head, including the eye of the affected side of the head.
4.- Sinusitis.
The symptoms that would set them apart from other types of migraines would be:
• The presence of a prior infection.
• An increase of pain after probing the frontal sinuses.
(on top of the eyebrows and the cheeks).
• If the person has a fever.
• If the pain increases when it goes down to the head.
It is very important to know that if it were coupled with inflammation in the eye bags, then it would be a complication named ‘Orbital Cellulitis’ which is a medical emergency. This symptom has to always be taken into account when it comes to children.
5.- Hypertension.
I would like to note that the headache that emerges in people that suffer from hypertension, eventhough no symptoms are present most of the time for this pathology, there are other instances whereby severe headaches throughout the head or centered in the neck; a hypertensive crisis is sometimes denoted but in the other occasions, it can be the symptom that is masked via the continued intake of painkillers.
Migraines are an important pathology that comprises of an extensive field of exploration, because of that it is essential to complete a correct diagnosis so that a suitable treatment is put in place.
Dr J. Hurtado Martínez
Medical Director of HealthSalus

My Treasures

"And I will give thee the treasures of darkness, and hidden riches of secret places..."
As Christians, we have direct access to the secret things of God. That's right -- God wants to share His secrets with us! Can you image this? Just picture God bowing near, cupping His hand, and whispering His secrets into your ear. Share as you receive your own Glory

Know your Genotype

Know your genotype before you say yes to that handsome guy or to that beautiful lady whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with...
Genotype & It's Appropriate Suitor:
AA + AA = Excellent
AA + AS = Good
AA + SS = Fair
AS + AS = Bad
AS + SS = Very Bad
SS + SS = Extremely Bad (In fact don't try it)

# SickleCellAwareness
BLOOD GROUP COMPATIBILITY
What’s Your Type and how common is it?
O+ 1 in 3 37.4%
(Most common)
A+ 1 in 3 35.7%
B+ 1 in 12 8.5%
AB+ 1 in 29 3.4%
O- 1 in 15 6.6%
A- 1 in 16 6.3%
B- 1 in 67 1.5%
AB- 1 in 167 .6%
(Rarest)
Compatible Blood Types
O- can receive O-
O+ can receive O+, O-
A- can receive A-, O-
A+ can receive A+, A-, O+, O-
B- can receive B-, O-
B+ can receive B+, B-, O+, O-
AB- can receive AB-, B-, A-, O-
AB+ can receive AB+, AB-, B+, B-, A+, A-, O+, O-
This is an important msg which can save a life! A life could be saved....
: Your Blood group also speaks about you.
(+) : Good leadership.
(-) : Hardworking.
(+) : Can Sacrifice for others and very ambitious, tolerance.
(-) : Non flexible, Selfish & Sadistic.
(+) : Born to help.
(-) : Narrow minded.
(+) : Very difficult to understand.
(-) : Sharp & Intelligent.
What is ur blood group ?
Try....It....share the Fantastic information..

EFFECT OF WATER
We Know Water is important but never knew about the Special Times one has to drink it.. !!
Did you ???

Drinking Water at the Right Time
Maximizes its effectiveness on the
Human Body;
1 Glass of Water after waking up -helps to activate internal organs..
2 Glass of Water 30 Minutes before a Meal helps digestion..
3 Glass of Water before taking a
Bath helps lower your blood pressure.
4 Glass of Water before going to
Bed avoids Stroke or Heart
Attack.

Boost Your Libido with These 12 Natural Tips

Boost Your Libido with These 12 Natural Tips

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The natural approach
Not ready to hit the Viagra yet? Thanks to these 10 helpful tips, you may not have to. There are several alternative things you can try help get you and your partner back under the sheets (or wherever else strikes your fancy).
And don’t worry, you’re not alone. Sexual dysfunction affects both men and women of all ages. It can happen for a variety of reasons that include chronic illness, stress, and anxiety.

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Take a bite out of a forbidden fruit
Little evidence supports the effectiveness of certain foods, but there’s no harm in experimenting.
Figs, bananas, and avocados, for example, are considered libido-boosting foods, known as aphrodisiacs.
But these foods also provide important vitamins and minerals that can increase blood flow to the genitals and promote a healthy sex life.

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Indulge in all things chocolate
Throughout history, chocolate has been a symbol of desire. Not just because of its delicious taste, but because of its power to improve sexual pleasure.
According to one study, chocolate promotes the release of phenylethylamine and serotonin into your body. This can produce some aphrodisiac and mood-lifting effects.
According to another study, the effects of chocolate on sexuality are probably more psychological than biological.

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Take your daily herbs
Next time you decide to sit down for a romantic dinner, add a little basil or garlic to your dish. The smell of basil stimulates the senses. Garlic contains high levels of allicin, and increases blood flow.
These effects may help men with erectile dysfunction.
Ginkgo biloba, an extract derived from the leaf of the Chinese ginkgo tree, is another herb found to treat antidepressant-induced sexual dysfunction.

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Take a tip from Africa
Yohimbine, an alkaloid found in the bark of the West African evergreen, has been known to work as as a natural Viagra.
Some studies suggest that Yohimbine bark can help you maintain an erection. It will also enhance the quality of an erection. However, researchers say there is no natural equivalent to match Viagra.

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Boost your self-confidence
The way you feel about your body affects the way you feel about sex. An unhealthy diet and lack of exercise may cause you to have a poor self-image. These things can discourage you from having and enjoying sex.
You can boost your self-esteem and your sex drive by shifting the focus from your flaws to your attributes. You can also focus on the pleasure experienced during sex.

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Stick to one glass of wine
Two glasses of wine might be one too many. Drinking one glass of wine can put you at ease and increase your interest in becoming intimate. But too much alcohol can ruin your ability to perform by affecting erectile function. Too much alcohol can also inhibit your ability to orgasm.

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Take time to meditate and relieve stress
No matter how healthy you are, being stressed out is going to affect your sex drive. Women are particularly susceptible to the effects stress can have on one’s sex life.
Men, on the other hand, sometimes use sex to relieve stress. And sometimes differences in the approach to sex may cause conflict.
To relieve stress, participate in sports activities, practice tai chi, or take a yoga class.

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Hit the snooze button
Those with a hectic lifestyle don’t always have the time to get the right amount of sleep. Being busy also makes it difficult to make time for a sex.
People who balance work with caring for aging parents or young children are often left exhausted, which can lead to a reduced sex drive.
Boost your energy and sex drive by taking naps when you can and eating a healthy diet high in protein and low in carbohydrates.

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Keep your relationship in check
After you’ve had an argument with your partner, chances are you’re not in the mood to have sex. For women, sensing emotional closeness is important to sexual intimacy. That means unresolved conflicts can affect your sexual relationship.
Communication is essential for building trust. It’s important to prevent resentments from building up.

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Consult a doctor
Even if you’re taking a natural approach to boosting your sex drive, it still might be a good idea to talk with your doctor. They can help you identify underlying problems.
Your doctor may suggest some strategies for enhancing sexual health. These may include communicating with your partner, making healthy lifestyle choices, and treating underlying medical conditions. Knowing the root of the problem affecting your sex life will make it easier to find a solution.

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Trial and error
There are a variety of different approaches that may enhance your sex drive naturally. However, it is important to remember that every couple is different. It may take a little experimentation to find out what works best for you.
If you do decide to turn to prescription drugs, remember that desire is at the core of sex. It’s important to remember that little blue pill may not be the answer if emotional issues are affecting your libido.

Written by Alexia Severson Medically Reviewed on April 25, 2016 by University of Illinois-Chicago, College of Medicine

Ecclesiastes 9:11

I have observed something else under the sun. The fastest runner doesn't always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn't always win the battle. The wise sometimes go hungry, and the skillful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don't always lead successful lives. It is all decided by chance, by being in the right place at the right time.

Lord guide me to be in the right place and time for your blessed opportunities to find me. Whatever will try to distract me, save me from them all. I pray in the name of Jesus. Amen

 Ecclesiastes 9:11